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Devin and Katie met on a blind date! Katie was living in Provo and Devin was in Ogden. They met in the middle in Sandy with a group of his friends, including the one who set them up! She was Devin's good friend and one of Katie’s favorite mission companions! They went to the classic fun center where they played arcade games, laser tag, and bounced on the bouncy houses! Katie and Devin even got a best friends heart necklace with all the tokens they had won from the arcade games (HOW CUTE IS THAT?!)! If you ask Devin, he'll say that he was already falling in love with Katie by the time the date was over. After that date, they didn't see each other for a month, but they talked nearly every day through snapchat and texts! Their second date was a trip to temple square to see the lights in Salt Lake City. Devin drove all the way down to Provo from Ogden to ride the tracks up to Salt Lake with Katie, to see the lights. Katie knew after that date that she really liked Devin and she really wanted to keep seeing and talking to him! And from there, you could basically say the rest was history! They started seeing each other every weekend and even during the week when time would permit! Devin was the first one to say 'I Love You', it took Katie a little longer, but eventually she came to and said it back during a trip to Vegas to see her family! After that, wedding talk became natural, and they planned another trip to Vegas so Devin could ask Katie’s father for my hand! While down there, they decided to go walk around the LDS Temple. They started walking around and as they came to the back by the fountains they came upon a blanket with tea candles and roses. You know what comes next! Devin got down on one knee, popped the question, and Katie said yes!!
Devin and Katie’s wedding day was a HOT one!! At one point it was 109 in the Vegas sun. But that didn’t stop anyone from having a blast! They served pizza at their reception (which you already know I was a huge fan of), and everyone danced the night away! Their dance party is only rivaled by few! They’re such a great couple, and I can’t wait to see the life they build!! CONGRATS KATIE AND DEVIN!!
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Alicia and Tyler met at the local grocery store! Alicia always thought the guy with the transitional glasses and cut off shorts was so cute. He thought she had a boyfriend so they never talked. Until one day their co-worker told Tyler he would give him 20 bucks if he could get Alicia to agree to go out on a date with him...which he did and he got the 20 bucks. And they have been together ever since! The first 2 years Tyler was going to school at MSU northern but would drive the 14 hours home on the weekends to come see Alicia. After those 2 years went by Alicia and Tyler moved in together. Now here they are 6 years later, finally husband and wife! Alicia and Tyler had an absolutely beautiful wedding day. So many people came in from all over, as far as New York, to celebrate with them! There were plenty of tears and crazy dance moves!
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Young love is idolized in literature and on the big screen. You'd be hard-pressed to find a young teenage girl who wasn't dreaming for her own high school sweetheart romance. Our youth is filled with high emotions and whirlwind rollercoasters of all the feels. The result is young adults who know love, are actively seeking it, and, in some instances, will find it quickly.
I'm one of those youngsters. I have always been pretty confident, and that translated well when I was dating and headed off to college. I knew what I wanted in a man, and I knew that one day, maybe soon, I'd meet him and that would be that! And that's exactly what happened when, a couple months after coming up to school, I met my husband Matt. We were in love in the blink of an eye, and we're not the only ones I know who got married while one or both of them were still in their teens or just barely out of them!
Today, I wanted to share some of the little things that come with marrying young that you might not have thought of, and that have had an impact for better or for worse on my life and in my marriage:
1. You'll get some judgement - embrace it.
I could see a lot of questions forming in the eyes of close friends and family members when I was ready to get married so soon after graduating high school! They questioned whether I was making the right choice, which hurt because I knew in my heart that I was. What you need to understand is that no one knows your heart and intuition better than you, and when the universe is pulling you towards something, you'd be better off to not fight it.
I would encourage those facing some judgement to not let it affect your decisions, but to rather embrace the judgement and relish the opportunity to take what they would call a risk and prove them wrong with a long and happy marriage.
2. You'll feel a lot of pressure and well-intentioned "guidance".
As you are so young, everyone from your parents to your church leaders to the check-out lady at the grocery store inquiring about your ring will feel the need to impart their version of monumental wisdom on you in your newly-engaged or newlywed state. I think that a lot of people may feel insecure about their own age/love life/relationships and I think that they feel better when they see others struggle. Take my advice, instead of theirs: spend as much time as you can together, getting to know each other, and establishing the basis for your relationship without outside input. These questions might be helpful.
3. Stuff costs more money or more time.
I'm probably just naive, but I didn't know how drastically different some things were priced merely on age! For example, we quickly discovered that everything from health insurance, auto insurance, building credit, and even renting a car, was a totally different ball game when married vs. single, but also as young adults. We're learning how to properly navigate these systems now, but those things were kind of surprising when we think back on the things that caught us most off guard about getting married young.
4. Getting married young means growing up together.
It's a wonderful thing, but it's also a really hard thing. When you get married as a very young adult, you still have growing up to do, but now you've got to make sure that it coincides or goes hand in hand with the growing up that your spouse has to do. This means that you get to develop your goals together, which can be a really fantastic bonding opportunity. Matthew and I have been able to do so much traveling in our few short years together, and we've been able to keep similar goals. But I know other couples that realized they had different goals and developed different levels of ambition as they grew up, and that's a hard thing to compromise on without one of your feeling that you're getting the short end of the stick. Keep conversation and respect a priority in your marriage, and you can get through it.
5. You get to spend more time together.
For some, getting married young means you get to spend more of your life with your significant other. For others, it's quite the adjustment to learn who you are while someone else is watching. I've found that in this season of my life, I can't get enough of quality time with my husband, but we also recognize that as time goes on, we will respect each other's space and the way that we choose to prioritize ourselves and our own time independent from one another.
6. Your social life looks pretty different.
Everyone says getting married changes your social life, and that's very true. But getting married young puts you in an interesting position. You're likely some of the first of your friends to get married, and instead of just finding a new married couple to hang out with, you might not have a lot of options. You're faced with either awkward gatherings of married people you don't know very well, or awkward gatherings with all your single friends talking about dating and other things that don't apply to you. Use this time to grow closer together and find some new hobbies you can do in your free time. Maybe you'll make new friends doing those hobbies that would be willing to hang with you!
7. You learn to be more open.
Despite how naive others may feel you are for getting married young, you have a wonderful opportunity to be so open to new things. While you're both figuring out life, you will need to be supportive of each other and understanding as you try to make your life together work. Staying open to new concepts and new opportunities can give you guys a chance to compound your efforts in creating a freakin' beautiful life together.
Obviously, I wouldn't change a thing when it comes to getting married young - I chose my love and I love my choice! I'm hoping that by sharing some of these tips though that I can make the transition a little more smooth for you reading this and planning your upcoming nuptials if you're also a young bride or recent newlywed. If you have any questions, let me know! I'd love to talk with you about anything wedding- or marriage-related.
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Planning a wedding is such a HUGE daunting task, especially if you're doing it in less than a year. It's not like you have all the free time in the world to sit down with vendors, make phone calls, brainstorm decor, and follow up. If you're smart, you'll ask for some help and suggestions and let those that are offering take over some aspects. Luckily, I've been to approximately a billion weddings and I have a little secret for you. There is one particular type of wedding vendor that I find to be really underutilized here in Utah, but that I believe can be a huge time-saving, and budget-saving, addition to your wedding, and that's a professional paper suite designer.
Graphic designers, or wedding graphic designers, or paper suite designers, are the talented artists who come up with the invitations, save the dates, and/or thank you cards that you send out to your guests to recognize their support and contribution to you getting where you are in life. I think these professional wedding vendors get skipped over with low budget weddings often, but I couldn't even begin to explain how big a mistake that is. Actually, I can begin, and that's what I'll do here:
1. Outsourcing is a good thing.
Hiring a professional to do something that would take any amount of time, stress, and resources for you to do is a really valid choice. You can work on your own invites and thank you cards, but they won't make your wedding stand out, or they might not look as grandiose as you were hoping your wedding would be. Your big day can be so much more when you've announced it with some beautiful, custom designs, on quality materials, with all the details clearly defined.
2. This ain't their first rodeo.
Another reason a professional designer can really save your bacon is that they've done the whole wedding announcement thing a time or two before. They know what information should be included on each type of insert, the proper way to word certain details, and what crosses the line into "tacky" when it comes down to what you should include on your invites. A designer will help you stay within the realm of elegant and classy to avoid a cheap announcement bound for the garbage. Wouldn't it be so lovely to hear all the compliments from people who save your announcement because it is so beautiful, and to not have to answer a million texts about the details of your wedding day from people who misplaced the hodgepodge announcements you sent out?
3. They can provide more than just your invites.
Creating a whole suite of custom, coordinated paper materials to send to your guests, friends, and family is just another bonus from hiring a professional graphic designer. It's the little things that make or break a big event like a wedding, and people will notice when the save the date, wedding announcement, programs, table cards, and thank you notes all coordinate and exemplify the same cohesiveness of the theme or style of your wedding. By designing all these things in one place and ordering at the same time, you can also save a bundle in design fees and shipping! Who doesn't love a good savings when it comes to planning a wedding?
4. They know the industry.
One of the most important reasons for hiring a professional wedding paper suite designer is all the connections they have in the wedding industry. You never know when you're going to need a referral for some aspect of your wedding, and since wedding suite designers work on so many weddings in a year, they've likely come to learn a thing or two about who to talk to, where to go for certain things, or how the event should take place. This is valuable information, not unlike the info I can provide my brides as a professional wedding photographer. Us wedding professionals know our stuff. It's info you couldn't possibly have learned in your time planning your wedding, so you'd be lucky to have someone like a professional designer with an entire network to turn to.
As much as I love photographing my couples and their weddings for the people and for their love, my heart really does get giddy when I see the perfectly coordinated details. My friend Rachel from The Bloom Design Company has been designing wedding suites for years and is my trusted expert to whom I always refer on these matters. Send her an email if you're interested in starting a project for your own wedding! I'd love for you to have that wedding of your dreams and to get to work with an experienced wedding industry professional like a graphic designer to create a custom paper suite just for you for your upcoming wedding that you'll cherish forever!